Question:
I was introduced to a girl who was on a blind date. Because she was a friend but hardly contacted her, the intermediary couldn't sit still and asked us to meet to find out what we were feeling. As a result, I didn’t think there was anything wrong with me saying hello, ordering food, or behaving well when we met. Although I didn’t dare to say yes, at least I wouldn’t be [discourteous]. But the girl on the blind date just sat down and looked at her phone. I asked her a lot. Part of it was um oh oh so hastily, how could I sit still? I ordered very little. She directly asked for a set meal, but she ate very little. To pay, I asked the girl to go on a blind date with AA to pay for the meal. I was wrong. ?
My logic is very simple. Since you don’t even look at me and don’t have the courtesy you should have, then why should I pay for this meal for you!
Answer:
Many people may criticize you, saying that you have no self-restraint and should not be with a person. Women's livelihood is more about food, so if it's not suitable, just politely refuse. There's no need to make it so embarrassing. But my point of view is different and I support you!
It’s like someone stepped on you without saying sorry. Some people insist on that apology and hold the other person back, and the two may end up fighting. Some people just laugh it off and don't behave like such impolite people, lest they waste their time and get angry. If you think differently, your approach will be different.
I think you are just taking pity on yourself. Being angry with her - disrespecting you. Being angry with the introducer - introducing everyone. Also angry with myself - shouldn't have come at all. Taken together, it broke out in the form of demanding the AA system.
For yourself, I think it’s pretty good. There is no need to make yourself feel wronged in order to cater to people who are completely different from you. For the blind date girl and the introducer, they can't control that much. They have their own problems, which are outside your jurisdiction, whether they are happy or not.
And no matter how much money you have, you will feel comfortable if you spend it well. We don't lack that little money, but we just don't want to spend our money on people like that.
“Because I have added friends and barely contacted each other, the intermediary couldn’t sit still and asked us to meet to find out how we feel.” Why is the intermediary so enthusiastic and proactive? Can I get a commission after the work is completed? I don’t know what the relationship between this introducer and you is, and which team you are on? Maybe it's just that he has obsessive-compulsive disorder and is more concerned about this matter than the two parties involved. Otherwise, he would not think about it, so he wants to see the result as soon as possible.
But I don’t know if it’s because you and the girl you’re dating are too reserved, or if you both resist dating from the bottom of your heart. It’s really frustrating to be friends but barely keep in touch. Maybe both of them went to dinner just to show respect to the introducer. But since everyone is here, they should show respect. These days, not using mobile phones is the greatest respect for each other.
But "When we meet, I can say hello or order food.I don't think there's anything wrong with her behavior. Although I don't dare to say yes, at least I won't be rude. But the other person just sat down and looked at her phone. When I asked her, most of her words were um, oh, oh, and then she said, "How can I sit down?" I ordered very little for my stay, and she directly ordered a set meal, but the food was very small, and she asked for AA payment."
Judging from this situation, she doesn't want to come at all, and she doesn't like you at all. , that’s why it’s so exciting. There’s no need to follow up, so no matter whether you ask her to be AA or not, the only advantage is that you can give the introducer an explanation.
< p> As for how she told the introducer that you are top-notch or weird, then we don’t care. Since the introducer came forward to save this situation, it’s not a matter of letting her lose face. It's okay, even if we just have a good meal together to say goodbye, it will be a smooth ending.But as for her, she didn't care about the introducer's face. It’s my fault that the introducer didn’t check me properly. Why can he introduce me to anyone with low quality? In your eyes, can I only be matched with such a girl?
So, if you describe Those are the facts, and there is no confusion or exaggeration, then I think this girl does not deserve sympathy at all.
In summary, I think you are right to pay for the meal on a blind date with a girl!
