After a confession is rejected, some boys will choose to give up silently, but some boys will choose to continue pursuing. So if the confession is rejected and you still want to pursue, how should you save the situation?
1. Don’t pester
If your confession is rejected, if the girl doesn’t directly delete you and block you, but says “do it” "Friend", then you should stop your entanglement in time.
Your best performance at this time is "I don't care+I don't blame you+I understand you"
For example:
For example, when a girl refuses They will all say, "Although you are very nice, we are not suitable for each other. Let's just be friends for fear of delaying you."
At this time, we should reply to the girl with a nonchalant tone and respectful content. There are two sentences in total:
The first sentence is "I don't want to be friends." + Emoticon package", the meaning of this reply is very simple, it means to show your own attitude and not be friends.
The second reply: "But I hope I didn't put any emotional pressure on you. Seeing as you have a lot of things going on recently, it would be bad to have double pressure. And it's not me who's causing the delay. Maybe it's possible." It’s you~”. The implicit communication of this reply is to tell the girl, "I will not put pressure on you. Although I like you, I will not continue to pester you. Don't worry, and this is not delaying me, but delaying you. Your rejection of me is your missed opportunity, not my regret, we are equal~"
After replying, you must promptly stop any "chasing" her performance, behavior, and language . Just maintain normal interaction and let the girl know your presence. Don't press on her all the time. Put a small distance between each other appropriately to relieve the pressure.
Generally, it will take at least a week to maintain this state. In addition, if a girl had some affection for you before, she may actually be "chuckling" and feel warm during this period. Because she will feel that your confession is an affirmation of her charm, and she will feel that she is an attractive woman, so she will enjoy this feeling and retain a good impression of you.
2. Improve yourself and adjust your mentality
This process usually takes half a month. How to improve yourself There are many, and I have mentioned it many times in my previous articles, so I won’t go into details here. Anyway, improvement is essential!
Your mentality must also be adjusted well. After being rejected, many boys will A bad state of mind occurs. There are often examples like this. After a boy expresses his love and is rejected, the girl says to be friends. Then the boy with a bad attitude will have a stronger desire to conquer, mistakenly thinking that the girl just doesn’t want to develop so fast, and then he will often pay double the amount. Go out and pursue girls.
This is very wrong! If a girl refuses to confess her feelings, it means she doesn’t like you enough. There is no other reason. Therefore, if you still blindly double your efforts at this time, girls will not be moved by you. Do you still remember the moved I mentioned above? The reason why you can rely on being moved must be based on when you have enough chips. Let being moved promote A girl's good impression of you should not turn into a dislike.
So you have to improve yourself at this time and double your investment, so that you have enough leverage and attraction. This is the only way to avoid becoming a spare tire.
The method to increase a girl’s favorability towards you is also very simple, just show occasional concern. In the early stage, this kind of concern is more of a verbal concern, and you can care at most twice a week. !
For example, if it’s been cold recently, then you only need to care and say “It’s been cold recently, please keep warm” during a certain chat. This is enough, and it can ensure that girls have a basic good impression of you.
3. Invite to meet, default relationship between boyfriend and girlfriend
A month later, the previous confession appeared Any remaining problems no longer exist. After the above two steps, the relationship between you and the girl is balanced. Although she knows that you like her, your refusal to give up can move her. The basic goodwill you retain plus your improvement can make her love you. You are more interested.
So at this time, you have to upgrade from goodwill to ambiguity. It's also very simple, just add a flirting test to the chat interaction to make each other's chat a little more ambiguous.
When it comes to an ambiguous relationship, you can't continue to be ambiguous like this. You have to make an invitation in time. If the girl doesn't refuse your invitation, congratulations, you have succeeded.
